I had received an email a while back from a listener that, first of all, suggested I watch a movie entitled Facing The Giants. She wrote that it isn’t exactly a movie focusing on an infertility struggle, but it does touch that issue. For those of us who have been forced to face infertility, we won’t miss even a few seconds in any movie or documentary or article that happens to touch even ever so briefly on the issue. My listener, named Sue, recommended this movie, and I hope to catch it sometime, as I’m always interested in how they expose the subject. YOU might want to check it out too. Thanks for the suggestion, Sue!

She also asked me a question that left me pondering. It was this question that prompted me to post this blog. She asked me if I’d recommend doing IVF from my personal experience. My gut reaction was, not really, as, of course, it didn’t work for me. Then I realized that whatever any of us had success in, resulting in motherhood, THAT is what we are most likely going to recommend. So if I HAD had success with IVF, I’m sure I’d be a lot more excited about that whole adventure and would be highly recommending it.  But MY successful path ended up being adoption.  And I absolutely recommend adoption! There is no better thing that I have done in my life than the adoption of our little Hailey Rose. And I can’t imagine ever feeling in my lifetime, that I’ve accomplished anything greater than that. Yesterday was the very first time Hailey Rose said, “I love you, Mommy” to me. And let me tell you, friends…every single moment, every ounce of pain, every emotional roller coaster and every drop of blood, sweat and tears that I had gone through, was completely washed away, and I was lifted into a new ethereal realm of mommyhood that will resonate within me forever. I just had to share that with you. And my hope is that you feel that level of joy yourself someday soon.

But regarding secondary infertility, we must talk more about that on the show. I think these women have it especially hard, because there must times when women like me who have NEVER had a child, might make mention of the fact that a secondary woman should be happy she HAS a child…resulting in less sympathy, less understanding. But secondary infertility is just as difficult. NO ONE should struggle with infertility, but this isn’t a perfect world. So we must ALSO be sensitive to the women that are striving for another child to complete their family, and can’t understand why it happened easily once, and now … nothing. Secondary infertility sometimes seems to get lost in the shuffle…let us not forget these sisters of ours who also need encouragement, a shoulder to lean on and our prayers.