In the reading I’m doing of this funny and oh-so-true book, InVitro Fertility Goddess by Jodi Panayotov, I’m reminded of how this whole infertility battle effects the entire family. She talks about the ‘pressure cooker’ feeling…a feeling building up and waiting to explode…the extra rough emotions that start surrounding us this time of year as the holiday seasons are approaching. When there are no grandchildren to share Christmas with, and everyone ELSE seems to have grandchildren, it really can effect those grandparents-in-waiting. You see it in the malls, you see it on the streets…the parents and grandparents shopping, looking at the holiday windows and the trips to Santa. It can be doubly heart-wrenching, and you just want to escape to some island or to another planet, where you can get away from it all.  But you never do. It’s always there.

Infertility effects the entire family. I hope that if you are going through this, YOUR family treats you kindly and with great sensitivity, until you can finally have the holidays you desire…the Halloweens where you can have your little ones to dress up, the Thanksgivings that make sense, (for you truly have something to be thankful for), and the true Christmas (or Hanuka) joy you’ve been dreaming of. That is what I wish you all.